Rick Posted March 8, 2023 Posted March 8, 2023 8 hours ago, NickM said: Sigh! An Update on my wife 😔 The aftermath of all of her injuries and hospitalizations. Too much pain in the old break; too many unexplained 'shadows' in that fatty liver. One of the docs dug and dug and tested and tested. We just found out she has Stage 4 Bile duct carcinoma in her lymph nodes by her liver, that's already metastasized to her bones=especially in her broken shoulder and back. The docs are starting IV chemo next week. The doc as much said that there's no possibility of remission, only that the chemo can stop the advance of the cancer. This year is going to be our 30th anniversary. I don't really know what more to say Do the best you can to be there for her and do not second guess yourself on your actions. I do not know if your wife or you are religious or no,t but the following three Bible verses have helped our family and church members when facing this trial. The Classic, Psalm 23 2 Corinthians 4:13-18 Revelation 2:1-7
Steven P Allen Posted March 8, 2023 Posted March 8, 2023 Indeed. Your family will continue in my prayers. There is healing, either here or there. I can only begin to imagine your pain, Nick. God bless you both as you deal with this.
NickM Posted March 8, 2023 Author Posted March 8, 2023 2 hours ago, Rick said: Do the best you can to be there for her and do not second guess yourself on your actions. I do not know if your wife or you are religious or no,t but the following three Bible verses have helped our family and church members when facing this trial. The Classic, Psalm 23 2 Corinthians 4:13-18 Revelation 2:1-7 Yes, my wife is a good Latina Catholic.
sunday Posted March 8, 2023 Posted March 8, 2023 31 minutes ago, NickM said: Yes, my wife is a good Latina Catholic. Then she would appreciate this. Especially the second one.
Stargrunt6 Posted March 9, 2023 Posted March 9, 2023 On 1/19/2022 at 9:49 PM, NickM said: Gang, I have needed to share some news with you. For this last quarter, my wife and I have been on a hell of a roller coaster ride! WAAAY back in late August 2021, my sister in law's dog yanked my wife off her feet--she face planted and broke her right shoulder. So far, so bad. She surgically gets her upper humerus pinned together, so I have to take a few weeks off to tend to her injuries. Eventually I can return to work and come home to help her with personal hygiene during my lunch and coffee breaks. Then, one morning she can't sleep, can't stop drinking water and can't stop gasping for breath==911 time. They cart her off to the ER and it turns out she has sepsis and a DVT--and her blood chemistry is shot due to drinking too much water--and her heart's pounding like a house on fire. Off she goes for a couple of weeks in hospital and a couple of weeks of inhouse rehab to build her strength up again. Back home again with a PICC line and me managing her IV antibiotic infusions, and the as yet, unexplained meds and less than a week later, more 'can't sleep, can't breath, can't speak'==back to the ER. Now she fluid in her lungs, so diuretics and back home. The very next Saturday, Again, clammy skin, can't breath==back to the ER. Now they find why her heart's been racing all that time: she has a blockage in her coronary artery--which is ominously known as 'The Widow Maker'. The docs can't do open heart surgery because of the sepsis and the DVT and the blood thinners she's on. so now she has to have a couple of stents put in her heart---and before we leave the hospital, I get an explanation of EVERY med she's taking, why, when and how much. Now we've been home since late December, and we've avoided visiting the ER since them (AMEN!); If it wasn't for her arm getting broken, My wife's first warning of a problem would have been her dropping dead from a heart attack. Each visit peeled another layer back and revealed other health issues, like hypertension, diabetes, which we'd "known" about for a while but we didn't take it THAT seriously. Now with our choice being 'take seriously or die', we've much altered a lot of our lifestyle. I guess, I need to thank that dog for knocking my wife over. Left Anterior Descending blockages is nothing to mess with. It's crazy what gets people diagnosed. A photographer discovered he had a brain tumor because a football player, Tony Gonzales, ran into him.
NickM Posted April 9, 2023 Author Posted April 9, 2023 Ok, my friends: the chemo has been stopped after a few treatments, due to the damage it caused to her blood count and bone marrow. The cancer has caused fluid to gather in her legs and abdomen, so she has trouble breathing. Since her last chemo she's been in the ICU. She's now on comfort care with oxygen and morphine. She last spoken yesterday morning, but has been asleep since then. Soon she'll be going to hospice. I'm afraid the end is only days away. We've all said our goodbyes.
sunday Posted April 9, 2023 Posted April 9, 2023 Sad news, let's hope she will be happy in the afterlife.
Rick Posted April 9, 2023 Posted April 9, 2023 8 hours ago, NickM said: Ok, my friends: the chemo has been stopped after a few treatments, due to the damage it caused to her blood count and bone marrow. The cancer has caused fluid to gather in her legs and abdomen, so she has trouble breathing. Since her last chemo she's been in the ICU. She's now on comfort care with oxygen and morphine. She last spoken yesterday morning, but has been asleep since then. Soon she'll be going to hospice. I'm afraid the end is only days away. We've all said our goodbyes. Sorry to hear and forgive me for bringing this up as sometimes good intentions are not remembered, but is the will up-to-date along with the various insurance policies, memorial services, etc.?
Mikel2 Posted April 9, 2023 Posted April 9, 2023 Best wishes for the whole family in these difficult times.
R011 Posted April 9, 2023 Posted April 9, 2023 Very sorry to hear this, Nick. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Stuart Galbraith Posted April 10, 2023 Posted April 10, 2023 I really cant think of anything that wont sound trite, but im sorry for your what you and your loved ones are going through Nick. I went through it with my father, so I know a little of how you feel.
Detonable Posted April 11, 2023 Posted April 11, 2023 What a horrible turn of events. I hope they can minimize her pain. Remember the respect and affection we have for you. Don't hold your grief inside, it's perfectly reasonable to cry every day.
BansheeOne Posted April 11, 2023 Posted April 11, 2023 Damn man, that turned for the worse rather suddenly. I'm sorry. 😟
Steven P Allen Posted April 12, 2023 Posted April 12, 2023 I can only imagine, Nick. I lift up my prayers for your comfort. Remember the perfect hope which is in Christ our Lord. When you see your wife again, she will be whole and immersed in joy.
NickM Posted April 12, 2023 Author Posted April 12, 2023 thank you to all that replied; she went peacefully in her sleep. The hospice and it's staff were actually quite wonderful to us and to her. They even washed and combed her hair (something she had been wanting to do for weeks, but couldn't because of the edema in her legs); still when she got taken away, it felt so 'unreal'. I still can't quite comprehend that it happened. Thankfully, her family and mine have been very supportive.
futon Posted April 13, 2023 Posted April 13, 2023 I may be more of an outlier segment of TN but over many years, every once in I while, I see and read these personal things and feel sorry to do so but moved. My condolences. RIP.
seahawk Posted April 13, 2023 Posted April 13, 2023 I am very sorry to read this. My sincere condolences.
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